What is the story on KPIs

I recently had a discussion about KPIs (Key Performance Indicators), where I was asked why I needed to see the vision and the mission statements for the law firm.  The answer I provided was; the key performance indicators are based on the goals of the business, which are defined by the vision and the mission found in the strategic plan.  That got a blank stare, so I tried the more official-sounding explanation. A Key Performance Indicator is a measurable value that demonstrates how effectively the firm is achieving key business objectives. That didn’t exactly go over any better, and I was asked, what is an indicator? Before I drown in this analysis, let’s use the KISS principle.  When I use the term KPI, I think of measurements of performance.  Let me also say I have seen where every single measure is called a KPI. That makes no sense to me as not all indicators or measurements are key – some must be more important than others.

Let’s start at the beginning.  The vision statement defines what success looks like. It should contain all the key elements you want to be successful.  You could start with a simple statement saying the firm is a successful law practice.   What does that mean?  So you change it a little to be, the firm is a profitable personal injury law firm that is known for great client service.  

Now you just defined two potential measurements; being profitable and having great client service.  OK, so far.  If you decide these are key to your business, you just defined two KPIs. Now you develop a mission statement to realize the vision.  The mission could be to provide personal injury legal services.  Not very exciting, so you work on it some.  The mission is to provide legal services for personal injury clients in North and South Carolina.  You quickly find out that a lot of law firms do that, so you try and differentiate your firm.  The mission becomes; we provide timely and compassionate personal injury legal services with the best settlements in the Carolinas.  You have just defined several more potential KPIs. All of this was done before we completed the strategic plan or decided on any processes.

You complete the strategic plan and define some tools, processes, and procedures to meet your goals.  Each of those will have a few KPIs. The point of this discussion is, you will develop a unique set of KPIs based on your strategic plan. Using KPIs is a good way to look at the success of a business.  There is also a balanced scorecard approach. The balanced scorecard asks that you translate the mission statement into specific measures that reflect success. The balanced scorecard looks at the firm from four perspectives – financial, client, internal, and growth.  Within the strategic plan, you would develop measurements relative to each of these perspectives — potentially more KPIs.

One last observation, we all have a different idea of what the measurement focus should be. You can probably guess that I look at the strategic plan as the starting point to define the business.  Someone else may be focused on marketing and another on job performance. I have even seen a focus on process effectiveness.  All of these ideas are correct as far as they go, which makes my recommendation to consider all of them.  I would say that too many measurements may result in analysis paralysis.  I would aim for no more than 5 to 10 Key performance indicators.  The rest of your list of measurements are metrics to be used for early warning of problems, performance evaluations, process effectiveness, or prediction of outcomes.

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What is in a Title

I was recently asked what the difference between a manager, administrator, and coordinator is.  I have seen these roles change and get redefined over the twenty years we have been working with law firms.  The office manager is focused on resources like skills, money, and facilities.  A firm administrator would be focused on systems (processes, procedures, and tools). The office coordinator would be focused on a task like front desk, scheduling, or supplies. These are general definitions we have developed over the years, and often, these roles are merged. Recently we have noticed a reluctance to assign one person to each of these roles.  There is a fear that this would give too much control to one person.  Often this is a trust issue with the owner.  When this happens, we see the task that each role is assigned is farmed out with some being assigned outside of the firm.

The most common title we see in firms these days is the Firm Administrator.  Often, when we see that role, we see the task of oversight assigned to another staff member or an outside vendor. The way I look at it, it is like doing a reconcile on your checkbook; Assign that to someone other than the person doing the checkbook entries.

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A Successful Law Firm




The path to a successful law firm starts at the top. The number one secret of a successful law firm is the realization that this is a business. Successful owners of small law businesses recognize that their first duty is to provide the leadership and direction for the firm. A simple definition is that leadership is the art of motivating a group of people to act towards achieving a common goal. In a business setting, this would mean directing workers and colleagues with a strategy to meet the company’s needs. This gets all tied into the strategic plan which is the foundation for the law firm. Great law firms without exception have as its foundation the following

  • Values to determine the core of decision making
    • Vision to set out the journey the firm must take to achieve success
    • Strategy as to how the firm will realize its vision
    • High-Performance Work Culture which includes:
  • Desirable Work Traits required to work within the firm
  • Defined job Descriptions with clear expectations
  • Training to meet the expectations
  • Defined High-performance teams
  • The tools to enable success

This foundation is called the strategic plan. There is a lot of detail in a strategic plan, besides the vision, and one of the key points is:

  • You must practice the theory that everything you do is for the betterment of your client. You must keep this thought instilled in all your lawyers and staffs’ memory banks to have a successful law firm and to have continued growth.

Often the strategic plan is the easy part.  Once the plan is in place, the pressure of reality often hits. Once you start getting successful, you begin believing your own press. This is when things can go bad.  At this point, if you fail to keep a strategic plan in place with an implementation plan, things begin to slip through the cracks.

That is all high-level thinking, so let’s look at the details. My guess is that this is what you really wanted to know when you asked your question. A law firm is made up of skills (staff), policies, tools, and resources (buildings, money, etc.). A law firm is like an orchestra that sounds good when everyone is on the same page and playing the same tune.  Gone are the days that all you needed was a skill. In today’s competitive environment, you must be a team player.  To become that, you must have the right skills for your job, understand how you fit into the strategic plan, and learn to be a team player.

That is a monumental task.  We start with the strategic plan that documents everything, move to the process documentation that tells us what needs to be done, and then procedures that tell us how to do it.  To get everyone marching to the same tune, we do training.

Leadership is critical in the firm, and there are many levels of leadership from the owner to the attorneys, case managers, and administrative support.  Good firms, no Great firms, have a robust chain of command and everyone knows who the go-to person is.  Without that, there is chaos.

We see leaders who struggle with making decisions. People in the firm want a decision, and they don’t care if it’s the right one or the wrong one. Well, we do, of course, but the important point is the staff wants to know what to do and they don’t want to wait 4 or 5 days for a decision. The key is they just want to know what they need to do next. And if you’re going to be a leader, then you’ve got to make decisions. We understand that bigger decisions do take a little bit of time. But in the day-to-day running of your law firm, you must be decisive.

That is only part of the decision-making process. You have to support the processes, procedures, and policies that have been approved for the firm.  That suggests that to be a leader, you must understand and agree with the vision, values, and strategic plan for the firm.  It is hard to be an orchestra leader if you do not have the music. If your decision is not in agreement with the documented process, consider improving the process. There is no reason to continually violate the process, to use templates that always need correction, or repeat mistakes.  If the process is correct there may be a training issue, if not fix the process. The point is a leader completes the loop. 

Again the owner of the firm sets the vision and the direction and with management creates a strategic plan.  The firm creates an implementation plan that will work and follows it.  It can’t be a convenience thing but a way of life.

Many organizations, like the ABA, would say that the most important tool in our business is software and electronics. That would suggest that one of the key skills the staff of the firm must have is knowledge of the technology. For the Solomon Law Group it would be a variety of tools;

  • Litify
  • MS/Office (Word, Excel, and Office 365)
  • Box

Now we are all on the same page, are trained, and we are eager to go.  The number one rule is: you’ve got to add value to the client’s case. To do that, you must have or acquire the skills needed to use the tools and processes provided.  A successful firm needs a capable and competent workforce that can attend to the financial tasks, technology support, and other professional services you offer. The skills needed will vary depending on the job assignment.

Attorneys should be committed to providing exemplary legal services.  They have the added burden of understanding the law pertaining to the case types we handle. A law firm is a service business, so all staff members must be able to communicate with clients and each other.  The accountability for case accuracy rests with the attorney, and the case managers are accountable to deliver the work needed. 

Anyone in a leadership position (attorney, case manager, etc.) should have the mindset that the law office is a business. Every staff member that wants to be part of the leadership has a duty to market the law firm and be involved in their communities (school districts, youth sports, churches, and PTA).  That brings us back to the strategic plan.

What is it that this business wants to accomplish?  We have heard a lot of different answers to this question. The top two answers are; make money and serve clients.  We can accept both of those answers. The absolute wrong answer is: I don’t know.

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What’s the Process

Most people that I have met do not read process documents. If you give someone a documented procedure, they may read it once and file it away.   Now that is not to say you should not document your processes, you absolutely should.  The documentation of your process allows for incremental improvements in your business process, provides for performance metrics, and provides for training. A good process ensures the right things get done by the right people at the right time. Documenting policies, processes and procedures is a normal progression from strategic planning.

I have seen organizations with a shelf full of processes and procedures.  Each process makes sense, has been approved, and has a rational reason for existing.  Most law firms that I have worked with consider themselves a skill-based workforce.  In this culture you should allow your staff to think for themselves and trust they will do the right thing.  That statement assumes that your staff have read or been trained in your processes. The smart organization will know how to blend process and skill. 

If the business is skill based a good question would be; why do you need any process documentation?  The documentation sets the standard you expect.  If done correctly the process represents the best way to accomplish the task. The documenting of processes will standardize operations making it easier to predict the outcome.

Look for repetitive tasks to document and put under process control. Today there are so many tools out there to automate everything, like case management.  A well-designed process and the right business tool will make it possible for people to participate without the need to understand the bigger process picture, they just need to do the tasks assigned to them, and the process will identify who has to do what, and when. Many case management systems take advantage of documented processes and automate.

For example, let’s say that you wanted to send out a card when a client exits a phase of the case resolution process. You study the process, identify the best place to test for that condition, identify who should do it, and update the process.  Once the process is initiated you can hire someone to send out cards without putting the burden on your legal staff. Let everyone know the process has changed and start tracking the change.  You may find that people need training on the change, the process requires an update to accommodate the change or that everything is perfect. 

A lot is going on behind the scene within any business.  Processes, tools, skills, and training often need to be updated.  Don’t ignore all that is going on.  Have someone outside of the production environment that can administer that activity. People are always going to make mistakes; the thing to do is to recognize and accept that and design your processes with that in mind. Technology, culture and the market all change.  Be ready to recognize the changes and to react to them.

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It’s The Process

My first thought when looking at a new business is, we should not point out what is wrong; we should focus on what works and suggest improvements based on experience.  There will be some rough spots along the way, but no significant breakdowns.  We may have to enforce the use of some tools, policies, or processes along the way. Many years ago, one of my mentors told me that it is seldom the person and almost always the process that caused the problems.  He had a three-fail theory, which is the only time I ever heard him use a negative term.  Anyway, the approach was, document the process, execute the process, correct the process, and then enforce the process.  His enforcement idea was if you fail, the process is examined, and if that is OK, you go back into training.  He would do that step twice.  If you fail the third time and the process is still sound, then you may not be suited for the job.

He had another interesting theory – if you receive the same complaint more than twice and have never changed the process, look again because you probably missed something. There is a common element that jumps out at me when I think about this; it is the process.

So, you have documented your process; you have done training, now you are executing the process.  If there is a failure, look at the process and perhaps send people back to training.  You don’t scrap the process, quit, or have meltdowns. 

What I often see is a clash between business systems.  Most business management systems expect a systematic and somewhat rigid business process.  The business owner usually expects an interrupt-driven business system with a high-level forgiving process.  If we want to provide a solution in this real-world environment, we must figure out how these systems work together. 

If I track the process for a short time, I usually discover two areas of concern: the process is not well documented, and the expectations are mixed. It is expectations that are causing frustration. I’m not saying that you can’t have expectations, just that they have to be realistic. I’m not even saying that you have to lower your expectations, only be aware of how they can affect your day. Every time that an expectation bumps into reality, we have an event. If you remember your self-mastery exercise, you should know what an event kicks off. I believe expectations are subjective, biased, and can differ from person to person. Another note I found in my file was this; don’t put expectations on people, events, and outcomes unless you’re prepared to live with them. Some may expect people to follow the process, and the people, in turn, may expect you to leave them alone. But in both cases, people assume the other person knows this automatically, without ever having a conversation about it. This can only lead to tension. The best approach would be to base expectations on reality and, second, communicate expectations to anyone that needs to be involved in making it happen.  My best guess is that lack of communication is the source of the problem.

The concerns with expectations are enhanced if the process is not understood.  That can be because the process is not documented, it is not enforced, or the process does not match reality. The level of detail in a process, or the need for procedures, is based on the skill level of the user.  In a law firm you usually have a mixture of skill levels from attorneys to process workers.  Make sure that the output of the process represents what you need.  With that verified, document the process so that multiple skill levels can use and understand it. Now communicate the process to everyone that will use it and include your expectations on the degree it is followed and the output.

Have you ever heard what gets measured gets done? The same is true for expectations. That which is expected is what usually happens. The frustration starts when we realize that there are competing expectations.  If you expect that people will not follow the process, you will find evidence of that. If you expect that they will follow the process and you have communicated that expectation, you will find evidence that the process is being followed. Now we have to get into management and leadership.  That is a topic for another day.

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Let’s Compromise

compromise is a way of settling differences by making concessions. If you want to stay out until 10 and your friend wants to stay out until midnight, 11 is a good compromise. Compromise comes from the Latin compromissum, which means “mutual promise.”  It is the concept of a promise that gets people in trouble.

To start this off, you shouldn’t be compromising your self-esteem. You should never, ever be with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself in any way.  Although all relationships indeed require some compromise, the best and healthiest relationships should also allow a lot of room to let you be yourself. In business, you should not compromise your values and think real hard about compromising your strategic plan. Those two guidelines are my boundaries when I am about to compromise.

There are times when you find yourself in an almost endless string of compromises.  I find that this is a common tactic used in the compromise game. This happens over time, and sometimes it is so subtle that you get surprised when you discover that you just lost something.

The best way I know of to explain this is to use an example.  The danger is that someone will claim that I am talking about them because the example matches something in the past.  To overcome that problem, substitute anything you like in my example. If you don’t like an example about tools, use time off, the next vacation, or some work task. Here is my example; You have a piece of equipment, and you are asked to loan it out.  You say this will never happen because this is special to you.  Then the compromise comes in, but just this once they say and you are not using it anyway.  Eventually you give in.  Then the equipment is asked for again, and you say we agreed only once.  They say, but the project has been started, he or she needs the equipment to complete, and you are not using it anyway.  So much for promise one. So, you agree and say this is the last time.  Then you come in, and the equipment is missing, and you search.  You ask the person that was loaning it out, and they say what is your problem, you are not using it, and he or she needs it.  So much for promise two.

This is where it gets messy. You can be told how much they need the equipment, or you can be shamed into giving in. Sometimes the circumstances change, and a new compromise makes sense, but often nothing has changed, and the focus is on some character flaw. The latter is the most hurtful. You give in, and eventually, the equipment never comes back. This is what the person asking wanted in the first place. 

Now you are sitting on the back deck, drinking coffee, wondering what just happened.  My answer is, they wore me down. At some point, I just gave up.  I was thinking about buying another piece of equipment but finally said, why bother.  Over time you start to shut down.  My thought for the day, be wary about how much of yourself you give away.  

Not everyone you meet will have the same values as you do.  This story is not about a piece of equipment.  It is about values, respect, and relationships.  If this happens often, you lose trust in that person.  If trust is lost, the relationship suffers.

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A Team Approach

When we first started working with law firms, the focus was most often on getting the largest settlement.  That is not bad but should not be the only focus.  As the law firms we worked with became larger, the overhead cost started to climb.  Eventually, the law firm owners discovered that profit margins were shrinking.  That is when we got called in.  We found that there was no penalty for overhead because the rewards were still focused on settlements.  I remember the first firm I visited there was a celebration for a million-dollar settlement.  When I asked what the return-on-investment was for that case I got blank stares.  Turns out, they lost money.

When we find a situation like this, our next step is to apply overhead cost evenly to all the cases to determine the efficiency of the case resolution, and the return-on-investment (ROI).  That created an environment where attorneys took advantage of the system.   They would justify using large amounts of resources, knowing that there was no penalty designed into the program.  The overhead was evenly distributed.

There is a balance between a vast list of best business practices and the needs of a business.  I believe that you should look at the culture, size, and complexity of the business to select the best set of practices to use.  A small law firm with less than 20 staff, or less than 500 active cases, is much different than a firm with 750+ active cases and 25+ staff. Based on our experience, the dividing line is around these parameters. 

When you look at the big picture, there is a need for more accountability, better teamwork, and more accurate tracking. The use of a profit center could provide all of that. There are several kinds of centers, profit, cost, and revenue. My experience tells me that a profit center is the best fit.  This would allow for some combination of revenue and cost center elements.  The first step would be to define and collect data on revenue, indirect cost, direct cost, staffing and payroll cost.   We then look at the vision and mission statements to determine what is important to the Firm.  With all that information we can define a balanced scorecard, profit centers, and an implementation plan.

The idea of a profit center has two primary features.  The first is, the overhead would more closely match what was used. The second was that a team was more efficient than a single skill focus.  These features can be further broken down like this:

  • A profit center cost included all the payroll costs for the members, a portion of the burden cost, and the direct cost. You can debate expenses like the cost of a case management system, but most count this as a direct cost. The cost of QuickBooks could be considered as overhead or an indirect cost. The cost of legal staff (attorney’s, paralegals, etc.) are part of production but the cost of administrators or support staff are not. Other expenses, such as rent, utilities, business insurance and the cost of supplies that do not become a part of any products or services are overhead expenses, or in-direct.
  • The team concept caused the workload to be distributed.  There was some redundancy built-in as well. The typical increase in production expected due to a team was also a benefit.
  • Increased productivity: A broader range of skills can be applied to case resolution.  There is also a competitive element that I often see when a team is formed.
  • Skills development: skills were shared. There was a team spirit that promoted the idea of each member of the team was part of the solution.
  • Redundancy: team members tend to backup each other. Once the idea that the success of the team would be rewarded, this idea grows.

The first lesson learned was on the distribution of expenses.  There was a point where the cost of distribution was prohibitive.  Trying to keep track of how many sheets of paper or stables were used cost more in tracking than any benefit realized.  So, the cost of payroll and benefits that were easy to track were passed on.  The cost of supplies, rent, heat, and other burden was distributed by a formula.  Over time we decided to distribute burden cost based on the number of cases.  We eventually modified that by defining a case weight to better distribute. The decision to use cases as the distribution element instead of hours worked or people assigned was because that was easier to track.  A focus on cases also better matched the mission of the business.

The downside, although not a big impact, was this forced a lawyer into a management role.  This had the advantage of awareness but the disadvantage that this was not what lawyers were trained for.  So far, the benefits have always outweighed the negative.

Another interesting observation based on the increased focus on accountability and business metrics. Over time we learned that the real benefit of profit center accountability and/or Firm metrics was in the trend and not in the number.  We decided to use a rolling 12-month trend.  This meant that we had to have at least two years of data to develop any meaningful trend lines.

The strategic plan for any of the Firms we worked with was a combination of values, vision, mission, business metrics, culture, and best business practices.  

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What is in a Title

I would think of a leader as someone that moves people, a manager as someone that controlled resources, and an administrator as someone in charge of a specific task.  These titles tend to merge over time.  I had a discussion with a law firm owner who did not see the distinction between the titles.   When I explored this idea I found out that the owner thought of people as resources, so no difference between manager and leader.  Going deeper into the organization there was no separation of task, so no difference between a manager and an administrator

The problem I discovered was that it was difficult to identify areas of improvement.  There were no areas to look at, everything, and everyone was focused on one very large task, the mission.  There were no individual processes, roles or areas to look at.  My best guess was that this view of the business started when there was only one person, one task, and one deliverable.  As the business grew the business process did not.  Eventually the one man, one show view of the business could no longer support the larger number of deliverables.  As the law firm grew bigger, the caseload increased, more people were added.  There was still only one control point, and that became the bottleneck.

Too often, big-picture questions are dismissed as not necessarily urgent for te business. I would say that defining a clear vision is the most important thing you can do to move your business forward—with everyone aligned behind and empowered to make that vision a reality.

In the beginning, the single focus idea worked, but as the number of tasks increased in number that became a problem.   I got this idea that there must be a magic number of tasks that was the turning point.  That idea was quickly shot down.  I found that there were too many variables to determine an absolute size parameter.  Just a few examples of what I looked at; the skill of the owner, the complexity of the tasks, and the urgency of the task.   Each business I looked at had unique characteristics. The answer was an old idea called strategic planning.  Like everything else, that title means different things to different folks.  Whatever you call it, the process that worked best was the development of the big picture with a glimpse into the future.  I used tools like SWOT analysis to identify the areas to address and to fill in my big picture.  The output was a proposed business process that fit the uniqueness of the business being analyzed. 

Going into the process, there were no preconceived idea of what the solution was.  The first phase of this strategic planning exercise was one of discovery.  I found that every business had a culture that was shaped by the values, experiences and attitude of the top management team. No matter how good the SWOT analysis was, the culture had a large influence.

The second phase of strategic planning was exploring possibilities and matching those ideas to our big picture.  All ideas were fair game, but you had to have some control over the outcome of this phase.  In every project I worked on, this control was a very small team of stake holders. Stakeholders are individuals who are invested in the business, and their input has a direct impact on the success of the business. The owners of the culture and the business developed strong identities; values and attitudes in support of their mission and vision.

The hard part of this phase of planning is to break into this culture so you can define new ways of doing business, new roles, and responsibilities. The owners must give up some control and pass it on to the leaders, managers, and administrators.  If this does not happen, the strategic plan becomes a nice document that is put on the shelf to collect dust.

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I want to know WHY

I have taught leadership, self-mastery, strategic planning, and business management for a few years now and these topics were always part of the big picture when looking at a business. I often felt like something was missing, and it always came down to why.  The why was missing.  Values, another piece, provided great guidelines. The vision for the business, or my vision, did a good job in defining my world or what I have heard described as the sandbox.  The mission was always what I did or needed to be done.  But where is the passion?  That was somehow tied to the why.

The why was my purpose, the reason for which something is done or for which something exists. Before I had any buy-in, I had to understand the why. I understood my purpose.  I could say that my purpose was to realize the vision or deliver on my mission, but that did not generate much passion. When you have a purpose, you have an aim or intention in mind. I was reminded about the motto of my college, “The man who knows how will always have a job. The man who knows why will always be his boss.”  I believe that was from Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Before you can become a great leader, you have to have and understand all the elements (values, vision, mission, the plan, and purpose). That would be ideal, and my best guess is that if you have a conflict between these pieces, you have worse case.  What happens if your purpose violates your values or goes against the plan?  Many times, I have seen situations where these elements were not well understood or where there were conflicts being ignored. 

The next time you are given that great opportunity find out what needs to be done then consider why.  If you can understand all the elements and accept that there are no conflicts, you are headed for success.

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Looking for Joy

I had lost my joy.  When I checked in, I found that I was surrounded by false boundaries.  Over time these boundaries were formed by fear, judgment, hate, and ego.  I would read and listen only to prove myself right and reinforce my judgments, fears, and hate. That is the harsh reality of it.  The boundaries were sturdy and well-entrenched.  Several events in my life started attacking these boundaries, but I held out for a long time.  Eventually, with some help, I saw a glimmer of joy outside these walls.  Being curious I started to search for the source of that joy.  For me the beginning of my journey was an idea that if I could read and listen for understanding instead of proof, I could find that source. I was not out to prove myself wrong, but on the chance that I misunderstood something I was ready to listen.   

I started with religion, not because it was a magical source but because I was already familiar with some of the teachings.  The difference this time was I started to hear the messages differently.   There was a belief hidden in these messages that said I was special.  I didn’t feel special.  One of my many mentors would ask; what title do you give yourself?  I had a lot of them, all negative.  I began to realize that I was my own worse influence.  My interpretation of my world was causing most of my frustrations. As I began to expand my view of myself beyond my boundaries, I found more joy.  This has potential.

I was ready to try out these new understandings.  I found out that sometimes there is more than one way to do something; not everyone was out to get me, and a few health scares are not the end of me. This was kind of liberating.  What if I expanded beyond myself and looked at others differently?  Slowly I started replacing fear, hate, and judgments with understanding, forgiveness, and compassion. 

Well, it didn’t take long for that idea to get stepped on.  I had to regroup and put some of those boundaries back up.  The loneliness of my self-imposed boundaries reminded me that there was something better.  Slowly I started again to remove those boundaries but this time with some lessons learned.  Gradually I broke out of my boundaries again and found that I was the problem.  I could at least start loving myself.  I started removing negative thoughts and replaced them with positive.  I learned about what many called spirituality or mindfulness.  I cautiously started down this path to joy. 

I suspect there are some reading this thinking, what a bunch of bunk.  I even have a few in my audience snickering but internally thinking, what-if.  OK, but let’s look at the what-if.  I started finding people in my world that added to my joy.  As my trust and understanding grew, my joy expanded.  I was not alone.  I found a select few that I could share my fantasies, fears, accomplishments with, without reservations.  There were others that were outside that sphere, but even with these, if I focused on understanding, compassion, and acceptance, my joy expanded. I was ready to share my revelation with the world only to discover that most people already knew this.  Now I am not sure why it took a major event in my life for me to discover this.

What the world needs now is more love and less hate, more understanding and less fake news, and more compassion and less judgment.   Start with yourself and expand your world.  

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